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Women want to feel loved and cared for above all. They will never open up in a relationship unless if their partner’s emotional status regarding them is revealed. They say that it’s the little things that partners do that matter the most. They keep the fire burning in a relationship. 

Individuals express affection differently.  There are certain things you can do as a man to express your love to the apple of your eye. And she in return will respond accordingly. What men don’t know is that a woman is what you make of her. 


It is generally known for women to appreciate beauty and order. This explains why they would spend more than half an hour dressing up or on the mirror hunting for perfection.  Sweet whispers from a lover or husband are the compound that completes the equation.

Women crave to receive compliments at all times. This makes them feel good. It also indicates that you notice their efforts towards beauty.

Holding hands

What comes to you’re mind when you see two people holding hands? The most common thought is the implication that the two are a couple. For a woman, it brings her great joy if her man shows her off like that. Not only because it’s one of the ways to mark her territory, but also is an affirmation that her man is not ashamed but rather proud of her.


Women love to have undivided attention. The moment you hear her start, “do you remember my friend Aura from college? I met her at the market today and you won’t believe what she’s been up to’. Just know that you’re in for a trip to her past life and back.

All you have to do as a man is to sit tight, listen and throw in a word or two somewhere in between knowing well that whenever she brags about you among her girlfriends, ‘he’s a good listener’ is a line that won’t be missed among the many good things you do. She will think that you love her stories (even if you don’t) and that shows that you truly care.

Give her a chance to contribute an opinion to your plans and dreams. This makes her feel like she’s a part of your world.


It is in human nature to crave physical touch from the people we love. But a touch from your lover is more significant. Being in the arms of your lover and gazing into each other’s eyes is a whole new level of intimacy.

For some reason, cuddling increases emotional bonds between partners. It is beyond physical connection, It’s the unspoken disclosure of emotion. Different cuddling postures always reveal one’s inner feelings to the partner.

Women being emotion-oriented, naturally, they are drawn to this activity the most. So try out each cuddling posture until you find your favorite.

Spending time together

The purpose of spending time together is to get to know each other better and have fun.  It is on these bitter-sweet moments that couples get to share deep conversations away from any distractions and stresses of life.

A day out on a picnic or beach allows couples ample time to do an activity they both enjoy doing together. Don’t be a boring partner, tell her why she is amazing. Spending quality time has a way of bringing couples closer.


Though sometimes it’s just enough to say nothing but cuddle up and be there for a while. This shows your woman or wife that you enjoy her company and it makes her feel special.


 Hugs not only express love but also a sense of security. Women want to feel safe in their man’s arms, it’s in their nature to desire a strong man by her side. This activity is proven to reduce stress, fears, and boost heart health. So go ahead and embrace your partner as many times as possible every day.

Being available

Life is relentless at throwing trying things at everyone. And sometimes all you need is someone to help maintain your sanity above all. Women need their men to cheer them up in tough times. Tell her that it will be okay, listen and feel empathy for them. Text and call back, this kind of support suggests that they are a priority and that helps your relationship grow.

 She needs to know that she can count on you for anything. Support and encourage her projects always. This shows that you believe in her abilities.

If you’re having a hard time bonding with your wife, these are a great start to communicate how you feel about her. She will definitely notice your message and appreciate it.



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Back in the day, parents threw a feast for their soon to be married daughter. Wherever they were, relatives made it a point to come to the feast to bid a final farewell to the young bride. The bride would then be surrounded by sengas whose role is to prepare her for marriage in all possible aspects. Give her tips and advice on how to handle and care for her man and offspring because it is believed that a woman is the maker and breaker of a family. 

 “I remember that night,” recalls Hanna, a mother of four.  “My uncles and aunties were at my home to say farewell. And as I looked at them all, my heart grew heavy at the thought of leaving home and might never get the chance to be with them like this, again.”

“ When I was seated on my grandmother’s laps, a thought came to me.  Am I a baby still, at this age? The thought of leaving home to start a new life away from them stirred fear in me”.

Like other cultures, Buganda region takes tremendous pride in its marital groundwork rituals. Kasuze katya is one of the significant ancient rituals rooted deep in the culture’s since it’s pioneers Kintu and Nambi.

At this critical point in time, parents carry a daughter on the laps for the last time amidst a shower of proclaimed blessings and well wishes.

The groom’s representatives soon join the merry crowd in the wee hours of the morning before dawn breaks. Just as a Baganda saying goes,“Enyonyi enkeeze yelya ensiringanyi” (The early bird eats the worms).  They had to come early enough to pick up the bride. Because it was suspected that there are always other suitors who will want to have one last chance to keep the girl. It was suspected that they might come at night time and elope with her.

Nanyini mu wataba, ebikere bitemba enyumba” ( when the owner is away, the frogs enter the house). 

If by any chance, a foe is sighted, a battle would break. And the winner will take the bride. Regardless of who paid dowery.

Groom’s guests come bearing symbolic gifts for the bride’s parents. The key items usually consist of paraffin, a matchbox, a funnel, and a lantern. Upon arrival, the first thing they ask is, “Kasuze katya”, ( inquiring how the bride spent the night ).

Way back when electricity was not yet part of life, kasuze katya was and still is a gesture of commemorating the trouble parents went through when caring for their daughter by then an infant. It is believed that these items were of tremendous help when caring for the bride in the wee hours of the night. Whenever she woke up crying, the mother had to light a lantern and perform her motherly duties.

Also, the symbolic gifts came in handy for the visitors too. The lantern lit the path leading to their destination lest they get lost. Not only that but also somewhat proof that the lamp actually works.

Today most people in urban centres and some remote areas can now afford electricity. More so because the government of Uganda is implementing an electricity connectivity campaign all over the country.  Upon completion, most of the population which earlier depended on paraffin and lanterns will significantly decrease. 

“When my daughter was taken, my son in law gave us a jerrican of paraffin and a lantern. I didn’t know what to do with them”, said Mrs. Margaret a mother of five. “I wish they could have paid my Yaaka bill instead”.

Who knows what the future holds when it comes to these symbolic items. Maybe things will change but one thing is for certain, parents’ efforts in raising the bride ought to be honored on this special night before the first ray of sunlight touches the earth. 



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Every wednesday evening, I gather with other young adults as it is one of our many church activities. It is intended to help people link-up and do life together. In this particular discussion group, our main link-up is the fact that we are all young adults. Facing the same challenges in one way or the other and probably need to bond with others regardless of the status quo.

Every week a couple of questions are tossed our way but this week, liberty was given to us to discuss a topic of our choice. Our leader gave us an ice-breaker to kick-start the session. ” Have you ever gone through a situation that made you think like if only I had money, I probably wouldn’t have gone through a problem or situation? “, he asked.

Except for one person, many agreed to have gone through situations that made them wish to have had lots of money and probably such circumstances would be easy to deal with.

But there’s this other aspect of this question that is interesting. Imagine you’re at a point where you had money at your disposal when you have no desire to need it anymore because you have it in surplus. what then?

Now this question doesn’t give limitations to the amount of money to think about. This was a chance to be a billionaire or a trillionaire, quite frankly it all depended on the individual’s imagination.

And this is how individuals responded;

“I would go for higher educational levels,” said Peter.

“I would be married,” said another.

Derrick a sole proprietor of muchomo business said, “I would have hundreds of muchomo stands ( chicken, pig and cow meat) around Kampala.”

” I would be living my dreams,” said another, and also ” my priorities would be different because of a difference in my perspective of life. For instance, I would not be working just to get money for myself. I would probably be working towards giving back to the world in certain ways. Say, for instance; charity work.” There would definitely be a shift in objectives in my life.

” I would have no desire to take flights to travel abroad,” shouted another.

It is very much possible that with an unlimited reservoir of money, everyone’s life would be so different. Now the ball is tossed in your court, my reader. If by any chance, you are caught in this moment in time (with an unlimited reservoir of money ), what would you do or be?


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Just the other day, I met with two friends. Without dictation, our conversation adopted a menstrual course. Fatuma complained of back pain and cramps while Tendo dreaded diarrhea, nausea, headache, vomiting and general body weakness. “It feels like all hell is let loose on every single week in a month”

Well, different people are affected in particular ways on a personal basis of this matter at hand. It is also possible to find people who don’t experience pain at all during ovulation.

Cramps during Periods as we know them are caused when the muscles of your womb contract and relax to help shed the built-up lining. In some cases, we can’t be sure why other women experience severe pains. But some factors that increase in the menstrual pain are an augment in a hormone-like substance called prostaglandin which influences your, growths in your womb, endometriosis (abnormal uterine tissue growth) or just starting your period and use of birth control.

Practical home relief;

With mild cramps and discomfort you can try out the following remedies to receive relief during the ovulation process and if they don’t work, see a doctor to ascertain the cause of severe cramps.

Apply heat on your belly

The heat helps to relax the contracting muscles in the uterus and alleviate cramps. One can use heating pads and patches. If not available Pour warm water in a plastic bottle and place it on your belly. Showering warm water also helps. Also, keep hydrated, Drinking warm water helps reduce cramps and at the same time avoids headaches.

Improve on your diet

An augment in vegetables and a reduction in fat helps abate cramps. A low-fat diet actually decreases overall levels of inflammation in the body. In a month make sure to consume lots of veggies expecting a tolerant experience of periods. Besides fatty foods, avoid alcohol, carbonated beverages, caffeine, and salty foods so as to avoid bloating and reduce cramps.

Rather adopt taking in ginger tea, basil tea, cinnamon tea, Blackstrap Molasses, parsley, chamomile tea, and papaya for better days.

Workout for phat results


Making exercise a daily routine in a week helps reduce cramp (pain). For a woman who rarely workout, it seems a bit crazy to think of exercise in the midst of the cramps but working out releases neurotransmitters like endorphins and oxytocin. Endorphins can decrease pain perception. Try Yoga, running and simple stretches so as to stimulate endorphins. Both aerobic exercise and stretching helped soothe period cramps.

Massage with essential oils

Using certain aromatic essential oils by massaging your lower abdomen can also relieve menstrual cramps.  Investigators assigned 48 women with menstrual cramps and other symptoms to massage either essential oils or a synthetic fragrance on their lower abdomen. The women used a mixture of diluted essential oils from the end of one period to the beginning of the next. Lavender, clary sage and marjoram were used in a 2-1-1 ratio, and the essential oils were diluted to a 3 percent concentration overall in an unscented cream (a solution created, for example, by adding 3 milliliters (ml) of essential oils to 97 ml of an unscented cream). Women in both groups reported less pain, but the essential oils group did better.


If you’re not dead afraid of needles, acupuncture is another way to needle away cramps. This Chinese ancient treatment relaxes the nervous system which causes a flow of blood in internal organs. Six studies on 673 women using acupuncture with no conventional treatment  (such as anti-inflammatory drugs) showed that they received relief from cramps. Overall, they found that both acupuncture and acupressure could reduce pain, but concluded that more evaluation was needed to be sure.

Take caution to receive the service from a professional acupuncturist rather than false practitioners of the culture to avert health dysfunctions.

Use the right tools

In this modern day world, women are blessed to have a variety of pads (sanitary napkins) to choose from depending on personal acquiescence of a particular product. Most of the variety are coated with either latex or disposable plastic to which some women are allergic to.

For those who are irritated with industrial sanitary napkins coated with latex, you can always go organic. Made of pure organic cotton and just as much absorbent like those filled with absorbent gel in others.


Look for products that suit your leakage level. They come in different sizes and colours to your appeasement and desires. The thinnest sanitary pads are called the panty liners worn when expecting periods and for those days when your concluding your periods on the fourth or fifth day.

For light bleeders, mini, light, regular or light and moderate sanitary napkins are to use, unlike our counterparts who need maxi, super maxi, classic, super long maxi, extra heavy weight, and heavy pads to keep up with their faucet leakage and put worries to bed. Those worn at day time differ from those worn at night. Luckily enough manufactures align them in a way that suits such a difference.

Learning to use the right product gives you peace of mind and reduces stress levels as well as discomfort.

Seek divine intervention

Finally, if all fails, seek the one who made you and cast all your concern to Him. He who created you could alter a few things to make your life better.

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Ever since Qatar was severed by the gulf nations, the population of the victim has suffered. Circumstances compelled Qatar to be dependent on Turkey and Iran for domestic supplies.One of the grievances of Saudi Arabia and it’s allies required Qatar to halt connections with Iran.

Sheikh Mohammed bin Abdulrahman al-Thani discarded the grievances laid by the gulf nations, saying that the demands are impossible to meet, because the accusations contained in them are not true. However Doha is ready to discuss “legitimate issues” with the Gulf coalition.

“We cannot ‘sever links with so-called Islamic State, al-Qaeda and Lebanese Shia militant group Hezbollah’ because no such links exist,” he said in a statement.

“And we cannot ‘expel any members of Iran’s Revolutionary Guard’ because there are none in Qatar.” Said Qatari foreign minister.

The abruptly suspending of diplomatic relations, as they have in the past, but also surprised many by cutting off land, air and sea travel to and from Qatar has created major threats to the well being of her citizens.

Sanctions and expelling of Qatari nationals from four gulf nations have damaged the economy, the education of students in the gulf nations was disrupted. This challenging situation has compelled Qataris to adopt a course of action to pursue legal action against Saudi Arabia, the United Arab Emirates and Bahrain.

A Qatari human rights group is hiring a Swiss law firm to help seek compensation for citizens affected by sanctions imposed by Saudi Arabia and other Arab states, sources familiar with the matter have said.

Lalive, a law firm with offices in Geneva, Zurich and Doha, is finalising an agreement with Qatar’s government-appointed National Human Rights Commission (QNHRC) that will be announced soon, according to reports.

Lalive, which specialises in mass claims, said it will pursue the cases in local and international tribunals. “The sanctions imposed on Qatar go too far and are not in accordance with international law. Ordinary Qatari nationals and companies are not part of the State and cannot be targeted,” Veijo Heiskanen, the lead lawyer on the case, told Al Jazeera.

Tensions continue to accumulate as Qatar struggles to cling to her sovereignty currently under attack by the  gulf council. “We are willing to negotiate any legitimate grievances with our neighbours, but we will not compromise our sovereignty.” Speaking in Washington, Sheikh Mohammed bin Abdulrahman Al Thani  called the “siege” on Qatar “a clear act of aggression” that violated international law.

Defence Minister Khalid Al Attiyah with his Turkish counterpart Fikri Isik in Ankara

Qatar’s Defence Minister Khalid bin Mohammad Al Attiyah  held talks with his Turkish counterpart  Fikri Ishik in Ankara on 30th Friday, according to Turkey’s Anadolu state-run news agency.

The meeting between Turkish Defense Minister Fikri Isik and his Qatari counterpart, Khalid bin Mohammed al-Attiyah, will took place in the defence ministry.

Qatar’s ministry of defence announced the arrival of a new group of Turkish armed forces to the military base where Turkey began its training mission last week.

The forces are set to take part in joint exercises within the framework of a defence agreement signed between Doha and Ankara aimed at raising Qatar’s defence capabilities, supporting “counter-terror” efforts, and maintaining security and stability in the region.

To ensure the objective, earlier this month Mr Al Attiyah flew to Washington, where he signed a $12 billion deal to purchase F-15 fighter jets from the US.


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In this world of hyper unemployment, scarcity of money and unfavourable political environment, when many young men and women of Uganda have resorted to travel abroad for greener pastures. Only a few however have set their minds on infiltrating the entrepreneurship world. In which innovation are born of brilliant notions.

With energy conservation as a goad, a young man known as Don Koledu Deogracious has decided to involve in creation of “Fireless Cookers” as he calls this product. These are energy conserving cookers that are clean and safe.

Fact is with this product food can never get burnt and when food is ready, it can keep warm for more than 6hrs and it contains the food’s aroma and taste. It can also be washed to keep it clean.


It is a circular product made up of intrinsic and meticulously sown patterns of cloth. Within the outer cloth lies a sponge and then a black cloth inside.

Since it has no means of generating heat, it is designed in the way of heat conservation. Which is why a black cloth and the cushions are vital. These are meant to contain the heat on the food without letting it emit outside.


With a fireless cooker all you have to do is to pre-cook your food on a cooker or a charcoal stove for a given amount of time. This helps it to gain the required momentum of heat to sustain and guarantee its success in the fireless cooker.

Once the food has boiled enough to the highest boiling point, then transfer the whole saucepan in the fireless cooker. This has two domes of cushions. One is meant to support your food from beneath and another to cover it from the top. Your food should sit in between the cushions and wrap it up well. Then place it somewhere far from the reach of children.



Well the list is limited but more room to explore what other foods can one cook as well as carry it to work. Work as your cooking.


Besides cooking, this cooker can act as a stylish African hand bag as long as the cushions are removed, a considerable amount of space can accommodate other items. Two holders make it easier to carry and hang anywhere.

It is light in weight due to its non heavy properties.

It can also be used as a pillow, this was averred by the one owner of a product who claimed to have gone out in the field and suffered from fatigue. She found solace and comfort in laying her head on the cooker because it was soft.

It also comes in different colours and sizes as per an order.


Mostly parents or guardians with babies, people who detest to spend more time in the kitchen and single adults.


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Robert Kyagulanyi emerges triumphant in attainning the Kyadondo East seat which had gone blank when court nullified Apollo Kantinti’s victory in 2016 elections as the constituency MP due to anomalies found by the electoral commission.

After tallying up the votes from the 93 polling stations across the constituency, Electoral Commission returning officer Francis Nkurunziza, announced the final results and declared Kyagulanyi winner at 9.42pm local time.

Bobi Wine garnered a winning 25,659 votes, Ssebalu got 4,566 votes, Kantinti attained 1,832 votes, Nkunyingi had 575 and Kayongo received 377 votes.

The number of valid votes was 32,999, the invalid ones were 311 and 41 votes were spoiled. The total number of votes cast was 33,310.

“The first thing I want to do is to reconcile the leaders of Kyadondo East,” said Kyagulanyi, after being declared victor. “I want politics to bring us together,” he said, just like music does.

The running candidates were Robert Kyagulanyi Sentamu locally known as Bobi wine (stage name) for he is a renown singer, NRM flag bearer Sitenda Ssebalu, Forum for Democratic Change flag bearer Apollo Kantinti, Sowedi Kayongo and and independent Nkunyingi muwada.


In the morning, elections had moved on smoothly and Kyagulanyi the musician and businessman  with his wife barbie cast in their ballots at magere polling station as well as urging people to exercise their right to vote as per the local constitutional provision.

while Sitenda had bragged with confidence about his soon assumed to be victory; “I am confident that i am going to win with the majority. I can’t give percentages because i have no basis”.

Candidate Muwada Nkunyingi caused a commotion after finding out that his name was missing at Kiteezi’s register and advised to look for it elsewhere. This reaction attracts the heavily deployed police who later detained him. He received injuries to which he was hospitalized.

As for Apollo Kantinti, he was not eligible to vote from Kyaddondo East because he is registered to vote in Mukono, but can stand.

Anti-riot police steps in to quell riotous situation at Kasangati Resort. Security personnel were seen  arresting people and chasing them away but they stayed claiming to guard their votes.

The new Kyadondo East MP in waiting has recieved congratulation messages from Dr. Kizza Besigye, The Executive Director, Uganda Media Centre, Ofwono Opondo also tweeted: “So @HEBobiwine is beating everyone @NRMOnline @FDCOfficial1 hands down in #KyodondoEastByElections, Congs although still early.”

It should be recalled that the MP i waiting faced some challenges with security personnel. A scene too familiar to ignore when on the last campaign day (Tuesday), people in kyadondo went in a frenzy when the police came and arrested Robert Kyagulanyi and and detained at Kasangati police station and later driven by dusty road to Kiira police station because the excited crowd hurled stones and demanded the immediate release of their candidate.

Frank Mwesigwa, the Kampala Metropolitan Police commander, told reporters that they had not arrested the renowned musician, underlining that they were instead “engaging him” on campaign guidelines as regards his final rally.

“We have agreed on a new venue in Bulamu, Gayaza. His earlier venue violated the Electoral Commission campaign guidelines and he risked being disqualified,” he said.